"Three dates, three months, 300 questions" - Muslim Matchmaker's Hoda Abrahim and Yasmin Elhady reveal their Rule of Three

Muslim Matchmaker released on Hulu on February 12, 2025, just two days before Valentine's. The series brings a fresh perspective on matchmaking with their Muslim American clientele and follows Hoda Abrahim and Yasmin Elhady in the center of it all.

The eight-part series focuses on matching individuals through the complex nature of dating while also keeping their faith intact.

The matchmakers had sat down in an interview with Central Florida Public Media and revealed the challenges of dealing with American Muslims. They have to bridge the gap between traditional and modern realities of living in a country like the United States.

Hoda talked about how Western dating is all about casual relationships but many of her clients look forward to having long-term commitments from the start.

Hoda Abrahim, with the release of Muslim Matchmaker, has expressed her opinion about the Rule of Three. It is her concept of getting to know someone better and she enforces the same for her clients. Talking about the same, she said that this is what differentiates her in the business and dealing with failures. Hoda says,

"Three dates, three months, 300 questions. And what I mean by that is that I think that by the third date, people should then decide whether to move forward with someone or not. And then I want three months for you to discover whether you have an emotional connection with someone or not.

She added,

I love the idea of kind of transferring this no fear that we have of failure in business or in other industries to dating and say, hey, if you're going to fail, I want you to fail fast."

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Muslim Matchmaker Hoda Abrahim and Yasmin Elhady explain the Rule of Three

Hoda Abrahim, the Muslim Matchmaker, explains that she wants her clients to explore the match till its last drop and then decide. In a world where we are accustomed to fast-paced dating, this is what tests the compatibility of a match over the course of three months.

She has also laid out 300 questions that the partners can ask each other to penetrate the surface and get acquainted on a deeper level.

Talking about it, Yasmin Elhady says,

"And it's a guideline. It's a framework. And the hope with the rules of three is to kind of get out of your own head for a second and say, oh, OK. This is the way this worked for other people. Here's some wisdom behind this. It may work for me, it may not work for me, but I'm going to learn a ton about myself through this process."

Navigating to the topic of what clients expect when they hear the word "Muslim Matchmaker," both Hoda and Yasmin say that they are not what the families have in mind. Friends and close ones often confuse them for "old aunties" but instead, they are more "hip and fun."

Reflecting on their goal for the entire business and its structure, Yasmin says that they want their clients to find "sakina" which means peace. She says that the "whole point of marriage is peace."

As for the dating experience through apps, Hoda feels as if they are very fast and thus, "cheapen" the experience. By meeting in real life and connecting through a Muslim Matchmaker, their community can find a partner while also abiding by their religious beliefs.

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Muslim Matchmaker can be streamed from Hulu right now.