"I wanted closure"—Love Is Blind: Germany's Tolga reveals why he contacted Shila after the show

Love Is Blind: Germany star Tolga has constantly been feeling suffocated since he got engaged to Shila in the pods. He said that he felt "choked" in his relationship during the mixer party in episode 4. His constant battle with dealing with his daily life with Shila was looking nothing close to romantic.

In episode 5 of Love Is Blind: Germany, Tolga revealed to Shila that he was not feeling the same connection that he felt on the first day when they arrived in Crete. He did not want to hurt Shila but admitted that it was important to be honest. Shila, who still had feelings for Tolga, respected the decision and asked him to move forward as friends.

During the reunion, it was evident that Shila was deeply hurt after the breakup. However, Shella, a fellow cast member, revealed that despite breaking up with Shila in Crete, Tolga constantly tried to talk to her. Shella asked him why he kept on contacting her. Tolga admitted that he tried to contact Shila and said:

"As the boys can attest, I wanted to contact her multiple times, I didn't have the guts. I did not know how she would react. I wanted closure. I did not want to give her a bad feeling, that's why."

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Love Is Blind: Germany star Tolga reveals his reasons for leaving the show in the middle

Love Is Blind: Germany star Tolga apologized to Shila for breaking up the engagement during their honeymoon and leaving in between. The hosts wanted Tolga to address the issue and why he kept on calling marriage and his relationship a "prison" during the reunion episode.

Tolga mentioned that he could not handle the pressure in Crete. He was overwhelmed by the experience and was not ready to navigate his day-to-day life with Shila. He explained that he could not deal with emotions and was unable to be vulnerable. He admitted that he was still working on that aspect of his personality.

He further added, explaining why he felt Shila was different in Crete:

"The levity we had in Sweden was gone. The levity we had in pods. everything was so tough, a new situation. I couldn't cope with it."

Conversely, Shila retorted that she found it challenging to be "all chill, cool, and nice" while receiving bad feelings from Tolga's side. She also stated:

"I think the moment he realized he cannot pull his s**t show with me, he instantly lost interest."

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Love Is Blind: Germany reunion aired on January 19, 2025, on Netflix.