"It wasn't there" 90 Day Fiancé's Josko apologises to Vanja for violating her trust 

During January 26, 2025, Tell All episode of TLC's 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days, Josko made a shocking admission—he had secretly filmed intimate moments with Vanja without her consent.

The show, which follows international couples as they navigate their relationships before applying for K-1 visas, took a serious turn when Vanja revealed this betrayal of trust.

90 Day Fiancé's Josko eventually admitted the reality after first asserting that he had spoken with the group about recording in advance:

"In my head, I developed a story about the consent, but it wasn't there," he told them.

Following a contentious discussion in which Josko spent time critiquing Vanja's character in several ways, ranging from her private preferences to her potential as a mother figure, the admission was made.

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Vanja shared through tears, receiving immediate support from her fellow cast members:

"Without my consent, without my knowledge, [he] violated my privacy, my body,"

The revelation was particularly poignant given Vanja's previous openness about her trust issues with men and her careful approach to intimacy.

What made the situation more troubling was Josko's initial attitude. According to Vanja,

"He was proud of himself for doing it."

While Josko later claimed he "did it to spice things up" in their sex life, the explanation fell flat against the severity of the violation.

Prompted by host Shaun Robinson, Josko offered a public apology. "I'm terribly sorry," he began.

"It's not something that I'm proud of... It kept me awake a lot of days. It was something that I should not have done."

He continued:

"I violated your privacy, I violated your trust and I'm deeply sorry. I could not find words to describe how sorry I am because of that."

Despite claiming he had apologized "multiple times" previously, Josko maintained that his only mistake in the relationship was "making the video" without permission.

"I had really good intentions with her," he insisted.

"It didn't work out but I'm glad we tried. She's gorgeous, she's amazing and I wish for her to meet someone that will respect her and love her more than me and definitely more than Božo."

A pattern of disappointment

The incident marked another painful chapter in Vanja's journey on the show. She explained through tears:

"It's heartbreaking because I give my all in a relationship and then the other person doesn't want to pursue things with me anymore,"

She continued:

"And it's very disappointing to know that I keep giving and giving and I get this in return."

Vanja's path on 90 Day Fiancé had already been complicated. She initially traveled to Croatia to meet Božo, who unexpectedly "friend-zoned" her during her visit. Reflecting on both relationships during the Tell All, Vanja noted they were "both frustrating in their own way.

The violation of trust hit particularly hard given Vanja's careful approach to relationships. "Being intimate with somebody for me is a big deal," she shared emotionally.

"And the fact that he got that for me, I don't want to say I want to take it back, but I wish I didn't."

The incident serves as a sobering reminder of the importance of consent and trust in relationships, bringing a serious note to a show typically known for its lighter drama around cultural differences and long-distance love.

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Part 4 of the 90 Day Fiancé: Before the 90 Days Tell All airs on February 2, 2025, on TLC.