In a shocking turn of events that had The Ultimatum fans reaching for their remotes to make sure they hadn't missed something, Vanessa Hattaway and Dave mysteriously vanished from the show mid-season. Vanessa is now speaking up about what transpired behind the scenes.
She said in a candid interview why she was first reluctant to appear on the show:
"I felt really rejected and very alone. He was kind of my only option. I say that not to be mean, but it's a fact. I was looking to make the most of it, and we really did have this true friendship."
After watching her seeming bond with Nick Tramontin vanish into thin air, leaving viewers with more questions than answers behind their sudden split, she made the disclosure.
The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On Season 3’s Vanessa and Nick offer their respective perspectives on what went wrong
It seems that Vanessa and Nick's relationship is more nuanced in real life than what we saw on television. Their relationship wasn't precisely what it appeared to be on The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On, Vanessa said. After they moved in together, she says she found Nick had been "untruthful about many things" and had "manipulated" her to make her feel connected in a way that wasn't real.
The plot thickens with her revelation about private conversations that took place away from the cameras:
"There's no cameras or mics in the bedroom. Anytime he wanted to share something that he didn't want to be aired on national television, he would say, 'Hey, I need to talk to you.'"
But Nick has a different version of events. He blames the change in their relationship on Vanessa's attention to her career and his emotional turmoil following the news of J.R. and Sandy's kiss on The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On. Although he admits to drinking more while filming, he vehemently refutes Vanessa's claims of substance abuse:
"I've heard people say that I was using drugs. I have used drugs in my life. I was not using drugs on the show whatsoever."
In what might be the most Netflix-worthy plot twist, Nick reveals he's since completed an inpatient program and is now sober. He also defended what Vanessa called a "manic" incident involving a disco ball, explaining it was simply an attempt to "shift the mood and lighten the mood" during a tough day.
When we take into account The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On production's role, the scenario becomes much more complicated. Vanessa says she told producers about her concerns but was "shut down," but Nick insists he ordered production to "check in with Vanessa" after observing her talking to Dave and other people.
Aftermath of The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On
What's perhaps most interesting is that all this drama unfolded parallel to another couple's exit – Chanel and Micah – though Vanessa insists her decision to leave was entirely separate. In the world of reality TV, where dramatic exits are practically a rite of passage, this double departure certainly takes the cake.
While we may never know the full truth of what happened between these two contestants (isn't that always the case with reality TV?), one thing's for certain: The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On continues to deliver on its promise of drama, unexpected twists, and enough relationship complications to fill a season of Grey's Anatomy. As for Vanessa and Nick? Well, sometimes what happens in the experiment stays in the experiment – except when it doesn't.
The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On Season 3 is streaming on Netflix.