"Is Kirat defensive about how naive she was?": Reddit users question Kirat Assi ignoring major red flags in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare

Kirat Assi in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare (Image via Netflix)
Kirat Assi in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare (Image via Netflix/Tudum)

Netflix’s Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare has become a topic of debate among fans, thanks to the unbelievable story of Kirat Assi, who was catfished for a decade. While people do fall for someone on Facebook, audiences are wondering how Kirat never sensed something fishy during the ten years of her supposed relationship.

When the truth was revealed that her cousin Simran was pretending to be her lover, Bobby, Kirat Assi got defensive about her actions. She started to blame everyone, from Simran to her family and the real Bobby, apart from herself.

Fans have noticed how Kirat Assi ignored red flags of the fake Bobby to live in her fantasy world. But instead of acknowledging that she was naive and emotionally vulnerable, she kept getting infuriated with her family and investigative journalist Alexi whenever they called out her delusions.

So, was (is) Kirat Assi defensive about her naivety and delusional behavior, which further aggravated her vulnerable situation? After watching Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare, fans are pointing out the incidents that showcase how the catfishing victim did not take accountability for her decisions.

“Why was Simran somebody she regularly took advice from? – u/[deleted user]

This fan questioned why Kirat Assi, a 30-year-old woman, sought relationship advice from her cousin Simran Bhogal, who was way younger than her. Kirat valued Simran's perspective about Bobby. It is also possible that Kirat was subconsciously aware that Simran had some connection to Bobby, so she poured her heart out in front of her.

“Why didn’t Kirat try and go to New York to see him…” – u/jay-atrey

Another Reddit user asked why Kirat never flew to New York to meet Bobby. Her cousin, Simran, met him in Witness Protection, so why didn’t Kirat think of going there herself to clarify things once and for all? She also believed the whole Witness Protection theory and never wondered how Bobby got to use Facebook and meet random people under protection.

“She did not want to see the red flags…” – u/Loxley-saracen

One fan commented that Kirat was aware of her actions in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare but purposely ignored all the red flags. The reason behind this could be tied to familial pressure, as her relatives wanted her to get married to a well-settled man. When she came across Bobby, she got so biased towards him due to his persona and career that she ignored all the suspicious things.

“The phone calls are what confuse me the most…” – u/R12B12

One Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare follower highlighted how Kirat did not identify Simran’s voice on the call, who was pretending to be Bobby. Kirat said Simran’s naturally deeper voice made it easy to imitate Bobby. But it is surprising that Kirat talked to Simran and the fake Bobby so many times and could still not recognize the voice.

“Simran and Kiran were both messed up…” – u/Witty_Grapefruit3214

Another user stated that Kirat is as messed up in her mind as Simran. She was so obsessed with Bobby that she did not even suspect why he was not sharing selfies with her after so many years of dating. She might have sensed something was wrong, but she wanted to believe in Bobby's fantasy, especially since she felt pressure to find a partner.


Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare - Was Kirat Assi ignoring the red flags because she wanted to get married?

Reddit users question Kirat Assi ignoring major red flags in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare (Image via Netflix/Tudum)
Reddit users question Kirat Assi ignoring major red flags in Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare (Image via Netflix/Tudum)

Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare fans think Kirat Assi’s naivety and constant blaming of her family could indicate she was pressured to marry an influential man.

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Some viewers have mentioned that her family and cultural background greatly impacted her mindset. They speculate that growing up in a close-knit community, she became dependent on others and lacked emotional awareness. A section of the fans also allege that the pressure to marry someone from her culture made her ignore warning signs in her relationship with Bobby.

Fans on Reddit also think that Kirat’s choices and social life were shaped by her family’s expectations, leading to poor decisions and low self-esteem, which could be why she was defending her delusions and not acknowledging that she was immature.


Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare is available to stream on Netflix.

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Edited by Sarah Nazamuddin Harniswala